When YOU tried to take your first steps , you fell down and stop trying for a couple of days , i observe how the adults put their feet in a row , how they balance their body , where they look , how fast they do all that and when i’m alone , i try al these in a lower speed .
I was falling so many times when i tried them all together , but i discoverd that when imake one thing at a time , i had results .Then combination of more things and then i walked alone without any“external” help and made some mouths open widely .
When YOU tried to catch the candy and sweets in the table ,but you couldn’t because the chair was so high and to climb it was seemed impossible , i figure that i needed something to use it as a step , climb the chair and reach the table and candys .
Sometimes if nothing was near me to use it as a step , i used you (!) as a step to climb the chair .Of course you don’t have objections , because the candys are so sweat .
When YOU find it so difficult to ride your bicycle , without extra wheels to help you for weeks ,i discoverd that if you start with 2 extra wheels the first day and be very focused to understand , that if your spinal is in straight line as more as you can , you breath regularly and you look many meters infront ,you can throw the extra wheels in a week or less .
When YOU didn’t want to eat some food ,because you didn’t like them ,i pushed myself to eat all kinds of food . Somehow inside my brain i understood that , if i block some nutrition of , how could i grow up and become a complete healthy human .
If i cut something out ,some part of my body i won’t grow up , strong .“Childish” approach , but maybe not so very much .
When later in school in your first years ,YOU needed our parents to help you with lessons ,especially when your performance wasn’t so good , i acted different . I tried myself to unveil the exact points i found difficulties and failures .
I tried as better my brain and intelligence let me , to decode the nature of these difficulties .
After i’ve done all these actions and still had difficulties to solve the problems alone ,then i asked for external help . Believe me , most of times , external help didn’t needed .
When YOU decided to quit after from your basketball training because you‘ve missed to many shots and you get tired of not making a decent evolution , i did other things .
I put in youtube , all the top players in the world and watched them .
Michael Jordan ,Scottie Pippen ,Charles Barkley , Larry bird ( a classical shoter ) ,Nick Galis ( tremendous career statistics ) ,Drazen Petrovic ( he stayed and made shots in the dark , to have the feeling of the field IN DARKNESS !!!!! ) .
How they balanced their hands , their elbows , their back and feet , their whole body and all of them combined , when they made shots .
How they put their palm in the ball , where their eyesight focus , how they breath , are they calm ? ,
How do they spin the ball or not , they use their bodies as “springs” to help the shot movement ,what scenarios they do just before they make the shot to set their brain in the shot-mode ?
How they balance their bodies when they shot under pressure ,when they shot off – balance ? …..
When i spend the time i needed to “suck” , the information i want , i go to the field and try to do the same with the appropriate adjustments to fit my measures .Yes “mission was accomplished” ….
When YOU failed in the college exams and you decided not to try again , because you thought that you’ll fail again and propably you wasn’t so smart to be a scientist , i had another approach to all of this .
I went for my summer vacation and promised to myself not to make any decision , till i’ll relax my stressful brain ,took a step back and think again the hole thing .
I promised that before my final decision which will impact my hole life , i would take a look to some “guys” , who in the beginnings . They experienced “TONS” of disbelief and hostility from society , coaches , family , relatives , friends …. Some of their names are :
Albert Einstein , Michael Jordan , Mike Tyson , Michael Schumacher , Giannis Antetonkunmpo and the list is so big . And i take another decision .The correct one !!
When YOU afraid to go and talk to the girl you like so much , because you had so many failures the last couple of weeks , i try something else .
I stop listening to other guys “advises” about love and romance i realise that the mistakes i’ve made the previous time and lost so many girls , i’ve made them because i wasn’t myself .
I tried to be someone else , to “steal” the situation without making any efford and without being real . And of course i’ve LOST EMPHATICALLY . But no more .
I will always be myself and the posibilities of winning in Love is 50% .Not bad i suppose .
When YOU had your first love separation , you got hurt so badly and decided NOT TO LOVE again ,i did other things again . I made an honest “account” of my actions during that relationship and marked as many mistakes , i could remember .Because both parts make mistakes .
After that , i separate the mistake i’ve made ,by EGO and immature behavior and made a promise to myself , NEVER to make them again . I decided that i mustn’t hurt anynone else from now on , because my EGO tells me to do so . I control mylelf , not my ego .
After that realization , i apologize to anyone i’ve hurted , SINCERELY !!!!! and i moved on .
More matured and MORE HUMAN . When i am good with my conscious , i don’t care how many tries i’ll make to find my soul mate . I won’t stop till then !!!!!
When YOU had your first failure in the erotic part of your life , as a “newbie” , which can “brake” a young kids psychology very badly , i did only this :
I “feed” my hurted ego with a big sarcastic laugh , shake a little bit my head with true humbleness , take a good nap and MOVE ON FORGETTING ALL THIS .
Maybe i’ll keep the pleasure part of it .
When YOU try to find your first job after college and stuff and you failed in all the interviews ,because they “forced” you to make “discounts” to your MORALITY and ETHICS , i have another “policy” :
I try to collect as many qualifies for the particular job i can ,and i reverse the “force” and pressure to them . I make them want me so bad and don’t jeopardize my loss .You know psychology works both ways and sometimes the prey can become the “predator” .
When YOU have changed so many works , so many bosses , so many environments and nothing satisfy your “hungry” soul and you think of quitting and compromize till the end of your life , let me inform you this :
Have an open mind , ask yourself some very personal questions about your life goals and your abandoned childhood dreams .Ask your self if you want to grow old and looking back you’ll be in the “gifted” position to say :
I DID THAT . I DID THAT AND GAVE ALL MY STRENGTH and LOVE .
When you’ll answer all these questions , you won’t need any “advices” anymore .
Since then , YOU have never trained with the same tensity , the same determination and brutality as you were before . YOU were soft , your eyesight wasn’t the “eye of the tiger” anymore and you always found silly excuses for your reduced performance .
YOU tried to escape from yourself , who you are and what you were meant to be , by drinking alcohol , going to parties till the morning , making new companies and new “friends” , trying to forget the UNFORGOTTEN .
That no matter what you do , what you say to yourself , to decieve yourself , YOU CANNOT ESCAPE FROM THE BATTLES YOU MUST GIVE IN LIFE .
So , get your butt back to the gym and stadiums ,make updates to your mentality ,use the pain ,the fear and despear you feel , to motivation . Use the “darkness” which “attacks” you , to create light .
Be a Converter .
When i fail in life and make personal mistakes ,whether is on my lessons exams , in my first friends relationships ,in my Love relationships ,in whatever relationship , or my morality , i do another thing .
When i fall in the last corner for the Motogp championship and lose it , when i fail in my last penalty of the a football mundial , or the last basketball 3 – point shot in the Euroleague’s final , or i fail in my Wimbleton’s final and Roger Federer beats me .
I DON’T STAY TO MUCH TO THE FALL – FAIL , MENTALLY .
I don’t let my thoughts stuck to the mistake and “spinning” around the concequences .This won’t help me . This creates and enlarges the fall and blocks my mind from “recovery” .
A recovery ,which is very importand to me ,if I want to comeback in the “battlefield” and leave this “wound” behind me . Of course I must take care if hurted someone in any area and minimize the physical damages if they exist . After that , it’s wise to change my mindset and focus to something else .
I should retain my coolness and “examine” in the deepest level I can , the reasons which makes me fail .
THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTAND FOR MY HEALING EVOLUTION !!!!!
Because if I don’t make CRYSTAL CLEAR WHY I FAILED , I probably make the same mistake AGAIN .
And that’s NOT ACCEPTABLE .
The clarify proceess is often very brain demanding , but it is definetely worth it 1000% . Making mistakes , having failures and “treat” them properly , are very importand “bricks” to your champion wall .